Continue with an open mind . . .

Monday, January 30, 2012

BFF . . .

Let's be honest; you don't have as many 'BFF's' as you sometimes may think. Growing up every other person is your BFF; changed with the mood really. As you get older relationships start to dwindle and fade out. People develop and grow differently and inevitably place importance on some relationships more then others. You and I are both guilty of doing this over time.
Do I regret doing so? Nope. Not for a second. The way we handle relationships as well as any other aspect of our lives results in the person you are today and I like the person I am. I'm proud of the choices I've made, the ties that I've cut, bridges I've burned, relationships I've kept close etc. I've been honest to myself and although I can count my BFF's with just a couple of fingers, I can safely say that I couldn't ask for any better in those people.
These are people who are truly there for me and me for them unconditionally. They are never too busy with their own lives for me or me for them. They have only to say the word and the calendar clears. I've shared in every up and down with these people and wouldn't trade a second. When I've hit rock bottom these people have been there to get me back up, help me shake it all off and get back on my feet. When I hear the saying 'You'll always be my friend because you know too much.' Yup I agree. No one else in my life currently knows nor will ever know me like they do. The trust that is between us is something that I have no desire to work at developing between anyone else.
So when you think of your 'best friend' really think about it. I have a bunch of friends, but only a couple who I know will never be too busy for me or me for them, would never judge a decision they've made and would support them completely and utterly unconditionally. When I think about the truly important times in my life, they are the only people that share in them all.
'Even though we've changed and we're finding our own place in the world, we know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not still friends.' - Unknown
-T-

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Truths . . .

People think that you know who your true friends and family are when you're down and out; I don't believe this is necessarily the case. I believe that your friends and family should love you regardless of what state your life is in. They should be the ones who you call or they call to just talk, catch up or grab a bite to eat with. You should be able to sit in a room and not feel awkward silences. You should be able to go without talking for a period of time, yet know that they're a moment away at all times, ready to pick up where you left off at any time. You support each other in the ups, downs and everything in between. They should be people who you don't need to have secrets from because no matter what you tell them, they're ok with it. They support you and you them with no boundaries, no limits and no rules.
This is what I consider true friends. If you think about those people around you, how many are there with you, always and unconditionally? I can only think of a few yet I feel like the luckiest woman alive for having as many as I do.
To those people; thank you.